I was assigned male at birth but have increasingly started to notice over the years that other guys don’t have a big notch on either side of their torsos like I do. It’s my pelvic bone. I would go to a doctor to see what they had to say but they’ve seen me plenty of times and said absolutely nothing about being intersex and now I live in a rural conservative area and they don’t seem to diagnose the same way in hardly anything that is a conservative third rail. I just seem to have a really wide pelvis just like a female. Everything else seems male. I am a very normal weight so it’s not fat tissue - its clearly bone. I just feel gaslit over it and have been trying to gauge perceptions people have of me in my life in order to get on with things. I hate to turn to the internet but this is driving me crazy. I need something to work with, somewhere to start.
1 or 2 in 1000 people are xxy
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Klinefelter_syndrome
But even if you’re XY, hormones aren’t binary, you might just have a lot of estrogen, or it could be something that isn’t related at all to gender or hormones.
There’s a shit ton of human variation
Oddities in your bones don’t really mean much. I have a 13th pair of ribs, “people” are only supposed to have 12, but there’s a lot of variability floating around.
I sort of knew but didn’t properly understand this is my early 20s. I always thought that transitioning would be easy and I put it off, since I had a fairy femme figure… Of course then I hit 25 and out of nowhere seemingly my whole torso changed shape. Really surprisingly suddenly!
I think you might want to give these a read:
https://psmag.com/social-justice/our-bones-reveal-sex-is-not-binary
https://www.thepinknews.com/2023/01/13/pelvic-bone-unreliable-in-identifying-gender/
This isn’t to dismiss your concerns, but instead to let you know that your pelvis being one way or another, on its own, probably isn’t an indication of anything at all.
This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t consult a doctor to see if they can help you confirm or dispel your worries since this is clearly bothering you, but most importantly, remember - whatever the outcome, there’s nothing “wrong” with you.
Is it likely? No. Is it possible? Yes.
It’s worth getting checked out at some point though, because some intersex conditions can impact fertility
What you are is a guy with a wide pelvis.
