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It’s complicated. I considered myself hetero because women turn me on. Especially their faces, it’s not just their bodies. But seeing trans and cross people in the swingerclub showed me I can be attracted to them too and I realised I don’t really care what’s below the belt. I’d love to try sucking a cock 😊

I also noticed as I got more accepting of that that I would play with some guys who aren’t very masculine. I can imagine doing that. So I consider myself hetero flexible now.

Still a normal hairy muscular guy doesn’t really turn me on though. Not in a way of being put off but there is just nothing stirring.

I hope I get to try sometime but it’s kinda hard because most people with a dick love anal and I hate it. It’s too messy for me and that puts me off. I don’t do it with women either.

Anyway it’s something I’m not actively looking for but open to. And I never have but considering the communities I’m into I’m sure it will happen sooner or later.

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I dunno, closest I can think of would be me and my best friend having sex with our partners in the same room. He’s gay, I’m not. But back when we were young, we moved in together in this tiny little trailer in the next county over. Two rooms, but only one had a window unit AC, so we put both our beds in there.

Mind you, we’ve always been comfortable sharing a bed as needed, but I move a lot in my sleep, so it was only when absolutely necessary lol. Dude doesn’t like getting kneed all night, go figure.

But that meant dating was a difficulty during those early years right after high school. Mostly, we’d make the excuse of having a roommate and just schedule time away for “special” dates. I’d go find something to do while he was laying pipe, or vice versa.

A few times though, our partners were longish term, and were okay with an audience of sorts. So we’d just do our things in the same room.

Maybe five or six times over the couple of years we lived in that place, before we moved to the city for a while. The house we rented there had separate rooms and central air. Still had a relaxed attitude about things, so there were a few instances where things would get going and nobody bothered to take it to a bedroom.

Then, I bought my family home from my dad later on, and we ended up sharing a room while we got some work done on the house. Had two instances where the people we were seeing were okay with it.

Even once that was over, our rooms connected, and we didn’t always close the door.

It was never a thing where we had anything to do with each other, at least not beyond maybe bumping hips when doing something athletic lol. And we weren’t watching each other because he’s not into watching straight sex, nor am I into gay sex watching. Doesn’t bother me to see it, but I’m not going to watch.

But hell, dude is closer than a brother. Saved my life twice, we’ve been through some serious shit. There’s a term,“ride or die”. That’s us. Any time I’ve ever needed him, even after he got married and moved out, he’s there. Same goes the other way, he calls, I show up, period. We both made sure our spouses knew that was how it was, and would always be.

I’d kill for that guy, no questions asked. Hearing him bang some dude is nothing compared to that.

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Sure. I’ve tried, that’s how I know I’m straight! Sex with women feels like performance not sex. I just don’t feel the same way at all.

ETA some people here are saying they have a literal aversion to sex with same sex partner, I didn’t feel that, could do it as an actor or even for someone who needed it, it just doesn’t do anything for me. It’s not an aversion - I do have a literal aversion to pegging though. So maybe aversion to gender flexibility but not to sexual flexibility, even though I’m not a very “feminine” presenting woman at all. Dunno. We are all different I guess.

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Oh all the time. I’m straight as can be but sometimes sucking a buddy’s cock at the end of a long week just gives me pep the next day.

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Straight cis male here, and I’ve never even considered doing anything with a guy.

I’m also not homophobic, which I only mention because a lot of people lie to themselves about that, but really it wouldn’t bother me if I was gay/bi/whatever.
For more context, outside of sexuality, I would say I’m generally more “feminine” than most men.

I’ve thought about it in a “logical” sense, like, wondering if I only like women because of society or if it’s an innate thing, but whatever it is, I just have no sexual interest at all in men.

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Because you say you’re more feminine, I wonder if it’s western society’s image of a “man” that you don’t like. I’ve been into transgirls since high school, but back then they had to be cis passing. Now that I’m 30 I’m less picky, and I’m even starting to like some guys with facial hair. There is something to be said for novelty, and if you’ve never tried a partner with a dick, how do you know you won’t like it?

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Naw, I’m just not into anyone with male genitalia at all, even if everything else presents as feminine. To be entirely honest, I’m not sure where “the line” of attraction is for me, since I realize there are a lot of factors at play here, but I imagine it would be decidedly on the feminine side overall.

As for how I know I wouldn’t like it, I guess it’s like an aversion to something like a food? I just see it and think “no thanks” lol. You’re right that I may never truly know, but I’m reasonably confident.

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