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Why do you assert that at the start lol.

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Because I think most …if not all… boys “experiment” when they reach puberty and their hormones are racing. Those interactions would be considered Bi or Gay. But once you are an adult it’s different and at that point you are either heter, bi, or gay

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Or pan or ace or demi or poly or literally a dozen other possibilities.

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Yea, I reject the naming convention here entirely.

Sexuality is a spectrum. And, like you are insinuating, where someone falls on that spectrum can change with time (sorry pray-away-gay folks, this can’t be forced = simply put, we like what we like).

Where you land on that spectrum, NO ONE should give a shit about. Focus on your own genitals and the genitals you are trying to please and the extent of your total genital thinking should end there.

Sometimes there are lifetimes of experiences to explore in sexuality, for some people, it’s cut and dry. All the options in between are just as ok as well. With that context I don’t see justification for the impoliteness of not minding my own fucking business

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It looks like an oddly worded way to ask a question to straight people. I think the first part of the title would work better as something like “Straight identifying people, have you ever…” or the question could have been asked more generally like “have you ever had a sexual experience that didn’t match with your sexual identity? How did it go?”

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I had one experience like this. Another couple who we really like had swapped with my wife and I several times. And the swap “guidelines” would be for everyone to finish and then we would take a break with some cocktails and something to eat. When everyone was ready for round 2 the wives would start to orally work on the other husband to get them hard enough to perform act 2. Out of the blue the other wife asks me and my wife if it was OK for her husband to take me into his mouth start the process. We were both stunned but I agreed to try it. To say the least it was interesting. Once you get used to watching another man blowing you it actually feels really great. Maybe it’s because only a person with a penis knows best how to really suck another penis. I would think the same applies to a woman going down on another woman.

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Maybe you’re just gay and afraid to admit it to yourself for whatever reason.

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No need to label it, imo. Sexuality is a fuzzy multi-axis spectrum at the best of times. I say just identify as whatever you’re most comfortable with and call it a day.

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Agreed that in high school many boys experiment. But I also agree I never even considered performing anal sex as a top or bottom

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Yup

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The “even though” assumes most readers identify as heterosexual. I think in the bdsm community we’re mostly bi/pan. It sucks how many vanilla people are sexually repressed and don’t know how to express their desire. I went through a phase when I called myself “straight” because I felt a shortage of female partners, but now I feel a shortage of male partners and I’d really like a dick in my ass again.

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