Don’t forget about light sensitivity, aka “I guess I’m a vampire now, but it didn’t even come with a badass fitted trenchcoat.”
My partner has trouble seeing in dim light… guess which kind of light I love!
What Is A Focus definitely, but also sometimes it’s How Do I Stop Focus?
…I really need to get tested for ADHD. This community has single-handedly convinced me.
I’m not expert by any means but I’m pretty sure most of these things aren’t ADHD
Whether they’re directly caused by an ADHD neurotype or not, all those things are associated with ADHD
To pick one at random, Rejection Sensitive Disphoria (RSD) is often found with people who have ADHD. People dealing with RSD often imagine rejection where none was intended. That includes reading negative feelings into text messages, conversations, etc.
(CAVEAT: I am not an expert. This is not my professional field. This is speculation from someone who has ADHD and is around ADHD kids) I don’t know if there’s good research out there or not about RSD+ ADHD, but I suspect RSD is conditioned. Growing up with ADHD, you get a lot of negative feedback from people. You aren’t paying attention well enough, you’re often clumsy, you often say the wrong things at the wrong time, etc. With enough of that sort of feedback, developing negative self talk which turns into full RSD sounds like a natural outcome.
“What kind of idiot do you take me for?”
“No, thanks. You can stay right where you are.”
Last time I tried I was told there was no way to have it if you did well in earlier school years :/
Wait you’re telling me studying uninterruptedly for 15 hours a day with a focus that would make a jedi jealous for four weeks in a row and not being able to get yourself up to go to lectures the rest of the time isn’t the normal way how people graduate best in class?
I think it’s fair to say that schoolwork just outpaces attention span and focus at some point. Many people do well in their first years, and the struggles often only manifest themselves when more and more subjects get added, each with higher workloads than before.
Makes a lot of sense, but some people just cling to the but you did so well in elementary school thing
just dropping in to say that as a clinician, most of what is posted in here is bullshit. it’s actually pretty frustrating and ill probably have to unsub soon. for my own sanity.
I mean get assessed but dont take anything you see here seriously. ANYTHING.
Or perhaps clinicians are generally unfamiliar with the lived experience of ADHD. I’m diagnosed, and nothing any medical professional told me has helped jack shit so far.
the lived exp of someone with ADHD? my doxin in christ, why do you think I’m on this sub?
While I have never defaulted to wondering if friends hated me, I do overthink every vague response from someone. Not in a negative way, just all the possibilities and implications that there could be.
Asking for clarification from non-friends does frequently end in them being annoyed by me. No Susan, I don’t know what you are implying by pointing out someone’s is wearing a green shirt.
Missing social cues is adhd related. Not understanding implied social cues is more autism related. Many people with one have the other so it can be hard to separate them.
Social cues primarily require prior knowledge of the person and the context to have meaning. Stating that something is a color with no additional context as to why that color has a meaning is confusing.
“Thst shirt is blue!”
Ok. I wonder if it is just a bold color, a team color, doesn’t go with some other color they are wearing, or something else. A neurotypiczl person would probably just assume their first assumpton is correct but answer with a vague “It sure is!” they can both go on with their day whether they are on the same page or not.
The reason that this is my example is after having a lot of technical discussions that require shared understanding of details, it is apparent that the vast majority of people just assume they are on the same page when they are not. But they communicate in vsgue ways that don’t cause issues as long as nobody checks to see if they really are on the same page.
So someone who is allistic is likely going to have very little issue with the “shirt is blue” and moving on with their day. Just because someone is allistic doesn’t mean they are neurotypical, the common implication otherwise is just a pet peeve of mine.
The fact that the vagueness of the statement bothers you this much suggests to me that you are talking about an autistic more than adhd trait but ymmv.
- Oops, I forgot _______ again
-it’ll only take like 15 minutes (don’t trust me: it’ll either be 3 minutes or 1 hour).
