
turtlesareneat
My life is worse in a lot of ways but I got stronger and soberer and am fighting back more now, so it’s actually better. 2017-2021 I just sort of rolled over and let life pound away at me.
Up until they started adding AI features it’s pretty similar. I’m ambivalent about those features. They’re handy as hell, but the SaaS model eats dead donkey asshole, and they’re tied together. I always find a client who will just pay for my CS subscription for me, so it’s not really like I’ve suffered much, but what a stupid fucking tax just to get CA-delete.
Because we are the wolf we feed, or the monster - if we lean into fetishizing entire races, we justify that behavior and reenforce it, normalizing reducing an immutable trait into a sexual characteristic. Vs thinking “hey maybe I shouldn’t be spending all my time looking at only BBC-worship photos because it fucks up the way I treat black men” etc (to use one that comes up in the gay community a lot).
I am of the mind that it’s not healthy to be ashamed or upset by what turns us on, but that we shouldn’t intentionally try to get problematic with it either, as sex can get compulsive pretty quick. So don’t fetishize races.