The first one. There are a few exceptions, but overwhelmingly, incels are dudes who act like they are owed sex and call women “females” and then are surprised when none want to sleep with them

There’s nothing wrong with being a virgin, but the term incel has more connotations than “involuntary celebrate.”

It’s just that they’ve adopted the label.

You could say you’re a fan of national socialism, but when you realize what people who refer to themselves as national socialists are, I don’t think you’ll want to use that label on yourself anymore.