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10-15% IF you went above and beyond or performed particularly well. It’s a tip, I am not your employer. I used to be a huge tipper until I realized just how fucked that whole system is. Also, NEVER PRE-TIP. That is insane!

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58 points

Pre-tip? I think that’s called a bribe

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5 points

That’s what tips are. A bribe for your next visit

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14 points

What’s pre-tipping? A tip before you’ve even had service?

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8 points

Yup. Delivery services (like DoorDash or Domino’s) and the like tend to do it. They also show your tip to the person. You end up getting service based on your tip instead of the other way around.

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4 points

In Vegas start with a large pre tip for your waitress. That gets you drunk pretty quickly

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3 points

Friends were confused how I was wasted when they were barely tipsy

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16 points

Its what you have to do these days if you want your uber to show up in a reasonable amount of time.

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Or your pizza to not have been carried on its side, as I learned. That was actually when I quit getting any food out. Tipping is a broken system, and fast food shouldn’t be eaten anyway.

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6 points

Pre-tipping is how rub and tug’s work. For real.

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8 points

I don’t think 10-15% has been considered a reasonable tip for “above and beyond” since the 80s. Most will take that as an insult worse than not tipping, funnily enough.

As for pre-tips, they (intentionally?) design the checkout process such that if there’s a pre-tip, there is no post-tip. It’s basically a “don’t spit in my burger” fee.

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Complain all you want, but not tipping is straight up taking money from someone who is getting paid $5 an hour. Complain to ownership, write your congressman and state legislators, but not tipping only punishes someone who is barely scrapping by.

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So, dear reader, notice how whenever defenders of tipping come along, it’s always the same story.

Oh boohoo my poor minimum wage (which is pegged to the same minimum wage as non-tipped workers in states where most people live).

Ever wonder why it’s always about the minimum wage and never about how much money they make?

Any server with 2 brain cells clears $40 an hour in untaxed cash wages every shift.

They never report it on their taxes, and yet they will cry about their poor wittle wage at every opportunity expecting people that make half their salary to tip them 100% for rudely dropping off a plate once and never coming back, making you wait 20 minutes to close a check.

Notice the pattern. Remember how I was right next time.

Ask them if they’d rather abolish tipping next time. Notice how none of them say “yes”.

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5 points

Don’t give business to these companies. EZ

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4 points

I’m 100% on board with ending tipping, i am just saying that stiffing your server won’t do anything to end it.

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38 points

Employer is obligated to make up the difference so that perosn gets at least min wage.

So this statement is factually incorrect

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15 points

I just had a long conversation with my sister, a restaurant server, yesterday.

I remarked that the value the restaurant gets from her didn’t go down because she did a good job. Why should they get to pay her less when she over performs?

I’m not sure she got it.

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1 point

A couple issues with this take every time it’s mentioned.

  1. That isn’t on a per-hour basis. That is based on a usually weekly or bi-weekly cycle depending on your state. So if someone made a lot of reported tips on Saturday night, effectively making a couple hundred per hour, and no tips the entire rest of the week, they might still make the overall minimum wage for the week, effectively working 30+ hours for $2.13 an hour (federal tipped minimum) instead of $7.25 (federal minimum) or more depending on the state.

They’re making on average of a good amount, but most of that work is for shit pay no one would ever consider doing at that pay rate. It is very good money during that busy time, but anyone that’s ever worked food service knows busy times like that are an insane amount of work in comparison.

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1 point

They frequently don’t.

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This factoid is, at best, disingenuous. They only have to match minimum wage across the entire pay period, which is typically two weeks long. One bad shift isn’t going to make the employer pay you more, because the other 9 shifts in the same pay period balanced it out to be just above minimum wage. But that one bad shift will be felt by the employee, who went home with less money that evening.

Or even worse, if the restaurant requires tipping out the back of house, situations can arise where the employee ends up losing money in a day. Because if you get stiffed on a big 20 person party, (which happens a lot. Every individual at the party assumes someone else tipped), then you have a massive check with no tip. But the restaurant requires that you pay a percentage of the check (not the reported tip. The total check), to the back of house staff. So if tipping out is 5%, that 20 person party took two hours, and you got stiffed on an $800 ($40 per person. Not unreasonable for a restaurant) check? You’re only making $2.13 per hour (minimum wage for tipped workers) and just had to pay the back of house staff $40 out of your own pocket. You just lost $35.74 in those two hours. Because all of your time was spent catering to that party and you only got paid $4.26 for it.

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Not for each transaction. So not tipping is like reaching over to another table and taking some of their tip for your table. They are still paid less than minimum wage for the service they provided you, but someone else’s tips will still keep them out of minimum wage for the shift.

So yes, at they’re worst they should get at least minimum wage for each shift. But per customer, their rate is below minimum wage without tipping, which is an awful system we need to get rid of.

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36 points

Also tipping is for actual table service. If you just hand me some food I’m not tipping you for handing me food.

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11 points

I recently ordered some parts for an e-vape online. At the payment page it asked for a tip. I was in disbelief. (I didn’t take a screenshot, but in retrospect I should have.)

No services rendered, no food being made, nobody personally delivering it to my house. But it still wanted a tip, with the explanation that it was “to support our team!”

Where to even begin…

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17 points

Your opinion is a result of class warfare propaganda, to get working class people arguing with each other. Direct your anger to the employer.

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14 points

I’m tired of this excuse. These people took the job knowing what the pay rate was, and are demanding the customer pay their salary directly rather than the employer like virtually any other conventional job does. Customers have had it, they’re being told to give employees raises along with rising food costs, even at businesses that don’t do a damn thing for the customer except maybe hand them a to-go box. 20% for that? F no. Grow a spine and demand real pay, people have had it. IDK how I can travel almost any modern place else in the world, pay for a good meal, and only have to leave the approximation of $1 or so for appreciation of the service, but in America I pay for the food and a separate charge for the employee’s “pay”.

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Thrn stop going to restaurants that expect a tip. Don’t go to a restaurant and stiff your server. I spent 6 months last year living on $300 a week because people weren’t tipping at the bar i was working at. The bar is still open, but the new bartender is in the exact same position.

You don’t take a job at a restaurant or a bar because your life is doing great. You are there because you have no other options.

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10 points

Those same people only getting paid 5 an hour have literally fought and complained against any attempts to change the law and bring a proper wage. Why? Because they make more in tips than they would hourly. Whole system is messed up.

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10 points

yeah I basically stopped going to restaurants because is screwed either way. It actually used to be something we would do but the norm became wierd and like so many things nowadays it became just drop out of participation.

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-8 points

Yeah, I’m not defending tipping in the US, but not tipping is only screwing over the server. You don’t end up working at a restaurant because you love it, you are there because your life is a mess and it’s closest thing you can get to a stable job. If you don’t want to tip, then don’t go out to eat.

Back in October i had a guy “leave a tip” that said “Kamala bullshit” because he was mad his double of jack and coke cost $8. I don’t set the prices, i also think it’s bullshit, but i was weeknight bartending because I couldnt find any other job.

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9 points

Not tipping is not giving my money away for nothing.

Tipping culture creates unwarranted expectations and removes obligations from employers.

I’ve stopped tipping decades ago and won’t look back.

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9 points

In WA everyone is paid at least 16 an hour, over 20 in Seattle and in many high COL areas.

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-1 points

Believe it nor not, most people do not live in Washington.

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Its unfortunately a catch 22 though because continuing to tip kinda enables it to keep happening if everyone stopped tipping then places would likely have to pay a decent wage in order to get people to work as even if you’re extremely desperate for money its still not really worth it to work for tipped minimum wage with no tips also im not sure if it applies to all places but if your compensation + tips falls below the federal minimim wage the company must pay you the difference if I am not mistaken

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That’s over the course of a pay period though. So if i make $40 on a slow night, but $200 the next night, that evens out and the boss doesn’t have to pay out.

I am not defending tipping, but change will only happen from the top down. All the full time servers at the restaurant i work at are at “i cant pay my bills” level of struggling right now and we live in a super cheap area. Stiffing your server won’t end tipping, it’s just taking a meal away from them or their kids while the owner is just fine. Legislation is the only thing that will end the system, qnd that’s where the reform needs to happen.

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2 points

I’m paying

straight up taking money

lol, where can I find this magical money?

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Servers usually have to pay in X% of their total sales to the back of house. So if you stiff me on a $90 check, i lose $3 because i still have to pay that much in. I actually had a slow night where bith tables stiffed me so i actually left the restaurant $4 poorer than when i entered. Because ihad a better night the next shift, the owner was able to average me out so that he didn’t have to pay me more than the server minimum wage.

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-13 points

Yes. If you can’t afford to leave a decent tip, then don’t get the service.

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5 points

If there is a magical amount of money you want to receive so you don’t get pissed off at me, just make that the price.

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