Iβm also a not-so-young dude - forgotten generation - and honestly I donβt remember guys being like this. At least, not to womenβs faces. Being rejected sucks and is a hit to your self-image, so there was the occasional after-the-fact, booze-fueled name-calling while among the guys, but to must of us, being rejected was something we were embarrassed about and didnβt advertise by sharing.
Our generations - boomers, gen-x - are selfish, greedy, and short sighted. OTOH, from survey of N=1 (my wife) getting this sort of response from men wasnβt a concern.
I mean there is also a massive amount of underreporting of sexual violence from that time and if you were born a man then thereβs a good chance that if you were respectful you may have never been in the room where someone was getting assaulted or harassed. Thatβs not your fault, Iβm glad you might not have been one of the shitty people to hurt others, but Iβm pretty sure this shit has been happening a long time.
coming from a no-so-old dude who believes in respect and vibing.
Rape is another matter. Rape has been prevelant and underreported since, well, forever; and I doubt the rates of rape have gone down. In fact, since the definition of rape has been increasingly broadened, sexual violence crime rates have almost certainly been increasing.
The meme, and myself, were not talking about rape, or inequality, or being not being able to vote. I was only talking about women today being increasingly afraid to turn down men.
Why would you remember guys being like this if youβre not a woman? Obviously you would not experience this situation if you were never in this situation because youβre a man. This interaction is going to happen where you donβt see them. Just ask some women around you if theyβve ever been scared by the response of a man they rejected. Youβll find that the majority of women have.
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If you look back, I mentioned my highly scientific survey, which consisted my of asking my wife. Whence comes my observation.
My point has been that Iβm betting that the age group of the women you ask is significant. Itβd be an interesting study.
Iβd be interested as I reckon itβs cross ages.
Like when the contraceptive pill came in it made it harder for a lot of women to say no to having sex as they couldnβt say they were worried about pregnancy. - so even then women needed a tolerated reason to say no to men.
Being rejected sucks and is a hit to your self-image
A hit to your self-esteem maybe but you look all the better if you handle it nicely. If only guys understood that concept.
This has a lot of the energy of: βhave you tried just not being depressed?β
How so? I never said you werenβt supposed to feel bad or that you couldnβt. Lick your wounds if you want. Just donβt lash out over it.
It will make you a genuinely more likeable person if you donβt lash out at someone for rejecting you. No sane person wants to date an individual with a temper like that, especially if you put it on display before the relationship even begins.