Being rejected sucks and is a hit to your self-image
A hit to your self-esteem maybe but you look all the better if you handle it nicely. If only guys understood that concept.
This has a lot of the energy of: βhave you tried just not being depressed?β
How so? I never said you werenβt supposed to feel bad or that you couldnβt. Lick your wounds if you want. Just donβt lash out over it.
It will make you a genuinely more likeable person if you donβt lash out at someone for rejecting you. No sane person wants to date an individual with a temper like that, especially if you put it on display before the relationship even begins.
I would never defend or say that behavior is justified by hurt feelings. I am saying that just saying βjust donβt take rejection personallyβ is in no way a helpful response. To misquote Schoppenhauer, a person can choose how they react, but they canβt choose how they feel β especially when hormones are involved.