I think about this pretty often. I’ve lost most of my interest in video games, but that’s pretty much all I did until my mid-20s. The grass is always greener, but I think I’d be a much more interesting and satisfied person if I had grew up becoming very involved in literature, music, art, sports, or even film tbh as long as it was going beyond “watches a lot of movies”. I’m pivoting now, but it’s a lot harder to do with a full-time job and family that competes for my time.
I was thinking recently that I wish I had been forced to join a sports team. If only to feel what it’s like to be part of a whole, to have people support me and to support them in return
Nah those teams are like extreme bullying pens. The wholesome chungus 100 disney-netflix-pixar representation of kids coming together to support each other is a total fucking fantasy. Kids especially teens are very mean.
Its not like its impossible to predict either. You’re putting a kid who isnt athletic on a team with athletic kids, and those athletic kids see the unathletic kid dragging the team down. What the fuck do you think is going to happen? Oh they’re just going to be real sweet about it? No they’re going to bully you ruthlessly for being the weak point on the team. Happened to me.
And it just keeps getting worse, honestly. I’m a pretty online person, but even I have come to the realization that Apple giving you the option to track your screen time or whatever horse shit they do isn’t a solution and there are times where force is necessary, especially when you’re messing with how the brain processes a reward.
Just another plague where the only solution is pErSoNaL rEsPonSIBiLity and not forced accountability for those who lobbied the feds to make this shit a reality
I go to work and am on the computer for 8+ hours
It really makes me hate hate hate technology
I literally did both? I still hold records at my school but also would spend all of my free time at home in a computer. Sports by itself is not going to change what you do in your free time at home
You can change things you dont like about your life as an adult. Not everything of course we still have to pay rent and eat and shit (on the landlords doorstep). But if you were a weird teenager you dont have to be a weird adult. You can go to the gym and therapy and get a girlfriend or a boyfriend or a gundam.
I think I understand a little. Like the muscle memory would’ve already been instilled and gains already made, knowledge already had. I didn’t do sports besides recess or p.e. but that was only because I never had transportation (and had a mother who was struggling to deal with it all and her traumas). Would’ve been great. Now my gains are only for the swoletariat.
Considering that I’m abnormal, depressed, lazy, alone, and hate everything and everyone, I don’t see how I’m any less evil.
I imagine having mainstream hobbies and interests would make me fit in more even if it’s just an illusion.
Sports parents can be pretty abusive in how they make young children devote hours of their life to a sport that their parent has decided they should do.
My own parents were strict about my technology usage and I got my consoles taken away from me if I spent too much time on them. Most of my free time was spent reading, watching movies, and playing with action figures.
Sports parents can be pretty abusive in how they make young children devote hours of their life to a sport that their parent has decided they should do.
Yea, but introducing kids to sports ata young age also get them good at it. Wish my parents actually encouraged and forced me to do it, because I actually loved sports.
You can only do so much. I was taking guitar lessons at age 4, and loving them, until my mom (who was also taking lessons with the same teacher) got frustrated, broke her guitar on the sidewalk and never took me back for music lessons.
Could I have ended up with a skill I kept as an adult, maybe? Speculating on what could have been isn’t too productive at this point.
encouraged and forced me to do it
These are two different words you cant put an and between them like they mean the same thing. There’s a huge difference between providing sports as an option and “forcing” a kid.
Like if you had been forced the chances the end result would have been you loving them would have been slim.
