It’s that time of year again when my partner gets upset with me because I’m not the kind of person that ever wants anything…

My partner always wants this or that. They mention things they want all the time. So I write down what I hear. Gift holidays are covered easily because I try to pay attention.

I feel bad though. I know it’s hard when I don’t talk about things I want. And when asked, I don’t know what to say. It only ends up causing me anxiety.

This is so dumb. What does a person who doesn’t want things want for their birthday?

35 points

pegging

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don’t knock it until you’ve tried it

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🀣 πŸ’œ

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Well played.

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Full disclosure, I peeked at your comment history.

How about those phone mounts and maybe a neat 2-in-1 tripod/monopod for your binoculars? Or a shoulder sling?

Otherwise, my go-to is an experience like others suggested. Escape room, paint nite, afternoon of pool/ bowling/ mini golf, Top Golf, cooking class, museum visit, comedy night, hockey game, roller skating, hiking, music bingo/pub trivia, or consider a hotel room nearby for the night with an indoor pool or my absolute favorite…a cabin weekend with a hot tub and a real wood-burning fireplace.

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Damn it! I clearly want things! Why don’t I think to write these things down!?

You’re only slightly creepy for looking at my comment history, but also pretty dang smart for doing so.

It would take some research, but maybe they can help with that. I think that’s the frustrating part for them because they don’t know the first thing about these things, but hey… they are the ones who want to get me something. Haha.

Years ago, they bought me clamp on lenses for my phone, but it did not fit. I have a new phone now and I would love lens that I could mount to it. There’s a company that makes custom cases so they easily attach. I didn’t want to bother getting a new case, but my partner might want to do just that.

And if I don’t dig it, we can always return it and try again. Hopefully that wouldn’t be too offensive. I’ve done that in the past and never ended up buying a replacement item even though I promised I would. 😬

So yeah, an attachable lens or mount that would affix my phone to my binoculars when birding. And I think there are monopod stands, kind of like a tripod but only one leg, which can be used to keep things like binoculars stable. Maybe something like that if it isn’t too weird looking. Lol

Thank you, creepy internet sleuth! It’s so funny that I wrestle with what to think of when I know I’ve expressed interest in things. I don’t know why I couldn’t think of that on the spot. I very rarely actually get those things, but others might want to go that extra step and actually get them as a gift!

This can work!

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Mines comin up as well… I always struggled to be in the β€œhere and now” and been too busy for years and dropped most of my hobbies, found a very old camera that I bought in 2010-11 from the storage room… Its too big, started looking at what is currently available, found Ricoh griiix, saw some forums with the sensor results and pocketability; might get me back into photography, back into β€œhere and now”… Take a look if you are into that… Just leaving this thought here…

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It’s a great idea. I did nearly the same exact thing some years ago. It helped a lot. It grounded me. Rejuvenated me. I want to be there again. TMI: since then, life has blown up… more than once… and left me pretty mangled. Hobbies and those life giving things dissipated. Mental health declined again. I started drowning in work and survival. But slowly I’m getting into a better place. I miss those walks with camera in hand. Watching life unfold around me. Capturing creatures living life in all their funny ways. Yes, I quite liked that. And while it may not happen in time for my bday, that craving is there and that’s a good thing. I hope you’re able to spend more time in the here and now, with camera in hand. πŸ’œ

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Use it as an excuse to strengthen your bond I guess. Just say something like β€œall I want is to do (XYZ thing you know you both like: dinner, movie, whatever.) with you, I don’t need anything more.” If that even is something you’d even want to do of course. Don’t force it if it isn’t what you want.

Just be honest with them, you could even possibly try to explain the anxiety you feel about it all and let them know you’re happy just being with them in whatever way.

Either that or pick a food you like lol for me I’d probably just say β€œget me a big ol’ bag of chocolate covered pretzels and I’ll be in heaven.” :P

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There’s a lot of good truth within this post. More than you might realize. Something to ponder today.

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Beans

Jamon Iberico

Life size model of Captain Picard

Escape Room

8000 Hamsters

Ketamine

Dinner at a fancy restaurant

Art

Bathtub of chocolate pudding

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An escape room with 8000 hamsters and ketamine. Now that’s a birthday

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Lol

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My eyebrows actually went up and hand went to my chin when I read life-size replica of Captain Picard. Lol.

I would have nowhere to put such a thing and would never actually want it…

But it would be absolutely hilarious and I’d love it nonetheless. 😁

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It’s one of those things that you hide away for most of the year, but every now and then, when your partner’s forgotten about it, you move it to the bathroom in the middle of the night 😁

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Oh man. There definitely would be uses for such a replica. I just had a lot of fun generating stupid ai images of this scene:

Generate Jean-luc Picard in bed, wearing a robe that is open to reveal a hairy chest. He’s on his side, propping up his head with an arm. He has a pipe in mouth and is wagging his eyebrows, inviting you to join him.

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I always go with experiences over stuff. I want to do something with the people I care about and collect memories instead of things. It gives people the freedom to be as frugal or lavish as they want and I don’t have to store or return anything.

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Now this is what I’m talking about. πŸ’―

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