The good: I’m a very curious person and will always look up answers to virtually any question I have. I’m excited to learn new things, I’m an excellent problem-solver, and I’ll share what I can with anyone who asks, particularly at work.
The bad: I’m content with being alone most of the time. People love being around me and having me company, but I don’t make an effort to maintain friendships and the relationships I do have feel like such a struggle to keep up with.
The ugly: I’m severely unmotivated. I’ll do what I need to keep my job and survive, but I don’t have the drive to want to be super successful. I love starting new hobbies but I’ll become hyper-obsessed and suck literally all the joy out of them until I’m no longer interested.
As a recommendation to anyone answer this thread (which is an interesting one, by the way, thank you Sunroc!), feel free to use a throwaway before disclosing things that could be used against you as harassment.
I can only imagine this could be a toxic person’s wet dream to know so much about the bad and the ugly side of a list of people, and as the Lemmy userbase is still low, usernames are easy to recognize.
Karaoke god over here!
I hope you don’t internalize the language of your transitioning journey as ugly. A person being true to themselves is a very beautiful thing. I wouldn’t know about living that experience, but I think you probably aren’t giving yourself enough credit.
Well, people say I’m funny. I’m glad they like my little jokes. The trouble is that I’m not as funny as I’d like to be, because I use humor as a coping mechanism… Which brings us to the alcoholism.
Fellow alcoholic here (in recovery) that’s waay more common than you might think, I know I did this myself for a long time and I still like to be silly when its appropriate but being genuine can really be a lot better for my mental health and relationships
I think I’m realizing that the drinking is something I tend to overdo when I’m bored.
Still haven’t made any friends in my new area yet so I get bored too much. It’s high time I crawled out of my shell.
I was really close to saying something funny to you. I’m glad I couldn’t think of anything good.
The good: I like helping without expecting anything in return. If someone I care about is happy, I will be happy.
The bad: A white lie, even if it was told to don’t hurt my feelings, I will label it as a lie and I will lose all trust in you.
The ugly: If you do or say something that reminds me of my best friend (who committed suicide 25 years ago), without providing any explanation, I will be in a quite angry mode towards anyone until I have been able to sort out my thoughts, and that could last for weeks.
I dunno if the bad is all bad. As long as you communicate you can’t trust people who lie casually about little things, and are a relentlessly honest yourself- it’s all fair game
The ugly: same thing happens when people take my family’s substance abuse history lightly. Some things will always be delicate and will always require professional help.