berrodeguarana
I try to remind myself that, in the great scheme of things (i.e, evolution) a “step forward, two steps back” is a common thing in this chaotic universe of ours.
Meteors, dinosaurs, civil wars, capitalism issues, pandemics, murder, genocide, climatic changes… it’s all accounted for.
Of course, the answer is different if you are suffering directly from these things (apart from the meteors and dinosaurs) I mentioned above, then things suddenly get VERY personal and provoke impulsive reactions from our end.
I am that friend that vanished that you are describing.
In my case, I tried talking to the friend that bothered me ( an unmedicated ADHD alcoholic mess of a friend) he told me to fuck off.
I even stopped hanging out with my old group of friends that involved this guy that I described because it became this: male anger space to vent off, suicide jokes, complain about work, glorify alcohol, try out different types of drugs. No, thank you, I don’t want to do a live action of Rick n Morty.
There is no talking with a group where everyone decided to stay together on a shitty decision. I tried once and they got really angry and made me the wrong one for going to the gym, waking up early, quitting alcohol, etc.
I still keep in touch from afar and now, almost 10 years later, some of them are saying " yeah, the doctor told me to drop the alcohol", " yeah now I found the right meds for me and I aint as angry"
Everybody goes at their own pace, but expecting other friends to stay with you during this journey is ludicrous.
I went my way and although it hurt, sometimes its the best thing you can do for your mental health and integrity
Agora no Lemmy uso o conect e tá ok, mas não é a mesma coisa, fora que 90% da galera não fez a migração
Eu entendo que tenha menos posts e isso possa desanimar, mas para mim eu percebo que são coisas de maior qualidade, a conversa flui mais devagar e às vezes posts se alongam mais sobre um tema e outro. Eu acho que, no geral, o resultado é positivo. Tem vezes que eu entro aqui para postar e já vejo um usuário falando exatamente o que eu penso, então eu só upvoto, hahaha.
O que eu posso sugerir para expandir tua experiência no Lemmy e dar essa sensação do r/brasil é usar o All e ficar conectada em todas as instâncias do Lemmy possíveis.
Não é obrigatório saber inglês bem, mas ajuda muito já que a troca e investida ao Lemmy é primordialmente algo internacional.