The dudes in this thread really managed to remind me how gross it felt when men double my age tried to view me as a sexual object before sexual maturity. At 18, a 22 year old was an old man to me. A 35 year old was older than my fucking father. I didn’t even mature early or wear actual bras until I was legal, but that never stopped the discomfort. Ew guys, do better. You’re not fucking Leo, Leo is fucking creepy too.
At 18, a 22 year old was an old man to me
Jesus fuck girl what? That’s like the perfect age gap??
I’m not downplaying creepy ass old men hitting on teenagers but that’s fuckin wild
I’m aware of the small difference now, but when I had just turned 18, I was in high school. I had no concept of anything even remotely adult. I didn’t even know how to make a bowl of ramen. 22 year olds had their own apartment, some worked full time jobs, fed themselves independently, they could drink, it was a whole world that seemed so removed and adult to me.
Why does a man wanting a woman automatically mean he’s going to disrespect her?
This image is trying to invent a problem that isn’t there. I’m totally down to date someone my age who isn’t mentally ill. That’s literally my only requirement.
Unfortunately this seems to disqualify a significant percentage of the dating population.
Attractive, Intelligent, Sane
At 18 you can pick 3 but always focus on one. You’re looking for “true love”, but your crotch isn’t.
At 25 you can pick 2, but you still don’t know which one is most important. You’re looking for “Mr/Miss/Ms Right”, but are starting to feel like you’re Mr/Miss/Ms Leftover" because a lot of people pair up before you.
At 30+ you can pick one, but you’re mostly looking for someone who matches you “child-free” status. You’ve realised a relationship is something you make, not something you find. This is the age to be wary of “gold diggers” looking for a bankroll.
When you’re 35+ it turns from a structured partner hunt into “fuck it, we ride”. At this point, you just want to enjoy life, because there isn’t much free time!
ITT: older dudes pretending they’re Leo DiCaprio. You’re nooooottt. If you think I am wrong, please hit a college party this weekend.
People of dating age can do whatever they want! But let’s please not pretend that what applies to above average men applies to all men. Or what applies to above average women applies to all women!
From what I can tell, doesn’t matter your age. Any gender can be attractive at an older age, look at JLo or Sofia what’s her name. Depends on your level of attractiveness, above average attractive people have a timeless quality, goes for both men and women.
I am responding to the sexist and ageist attitude towards women that women’s aging is somehow different from men’s aging.
Yes, older sperm can produce offspring, but that offspring will be less biologically fit than offspring produced by younger sperm. So a woman in prime years is better off with someone +/- 3yrs her age. That’s just biology.
So older men only talking about women’s aging comes off as insecure and sexist. My posts are just a reality check.
Personally, I don’t evaluate the quality of a person by their level of attractiveness or their age. I just find that a lot of insecurities that men carry about themselves come out as sexist attitudes towards women. So yeah, sometimes you have to write a brash post to counter that sort of sentiment.