Hiya ladies,
With my hair growing, nails manicured, and eyebrows shaped, it’s going to become harder and harder to boymode inconspicuously around family or friends (only my partner knows). On the other side of that, I’m nowhere near passing or even presenting femme in public, which makes the idea of coming out quite scary as they’re seeing masculinity when I’m declaring femininity.
Part of me wants to wait like two years and then one day suddenly appear as my new completely feminine (hopefully beautiful!) self without any warning or advance notice! So people see the best version of myself, rather than seeing the mid-transition mess I am right now (or pre-transition mess I was!). But realistically I know that’s not gonna work!
So I’d love to hear some coming out stories and when in your transition you decided it was right for you! And how those you came out to responded, if you’re comfortable sharing that!
I came out almost immediately for a couple reasons:
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my mental health was total garbage and boymoding was literally unbearable
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I knew that most of my friends and family were pretty accepting and open minded
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I lived in a very diverse and accepting city at the time
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this was during the height of Covid restrictions so nobody was going out anyway
Basically the discomfort of hiding my true self overrode the fear of being openly and visibly trans lol
Fortunately everyone I came out to was really positive about it. I was prepared to cut out a few of my extended family members if it came to that, but thankfully I didn’t need to
The only thing I wish could have gone differently is that I stayed in the closet at work. I had some problematic coworkers so I didn’t feel safe being openly trans there. Unsurprisingly I didn’t last long at that job lol
One thing I can say is that I wouldn’t stress too much about the whole mid transition mess thing. No one, including you, will really remember it or see it as important once its over.
It’s hugely important when you’re in the middle of it, but it doesn’t stay that way :)
I was in a mental hospital (because I was suicidal, because I’m trans) when I told my dad. I specifically told him that this is the reason why I was there and he still thinks “it’s just a phase” and deadnames me whenever I’m around. I just hope it gets better when I’m on HRT, but for now I just avoid him
The whole “vanish for a couple years and show back up as a woman” appeals so much… I just don’t think I could do that to my mother. The rest of my family I couldn’t care less but I would feel guilty not involving her.
Maybe in a couple years, some therapy for anxiety, and a different job, I’ll think about coming out. No HRT anytime soon, family and personal history of growing/developing EXTREMELY fast I get the feeling it would out me within months haha
For now, hair removal and some comfy clothes to wear at home is my goal. Found an electrolysis place nearby that does roughly $85 an hour (no matter what I’ve wanted permanent hair removal “down there” since it started growing.) Maybe laser to greatly thin out bulk body hair.
Was supposed to get some pretty (over knee and thigh high) socks delivered today but something went wrong; supposedly were delivered, but i think they went to the wrong place 😥
Well, they got here! USPS scanned them as delivered a day early 😑 Definitely feels nice to have something skin tight on my entire leg, but I very much prefer the texture and thickness of my wool socks from Darn Tough. But they sure look good! Some standard black/gray programmer socks, and these (which are a liiiittle tight around the feet but otherwise nice)
https://sockdreams.com/products/foxy-over-the-knee-socks?variant=44684107022631
Not on HRT, but im really in luck with my face i guess…,
I’m doing my nails, curly or brushed long hairs, makeup,
Anarchist Lesbian Look,
Im not seeing my family, and if i have to do, for an execption, i can go in boy mode. I got insults because you know, just hairs.
So like you, i think, one day i will appear to them as real me, but not now.
Now that you have my context ^^",
For now, im doing my CO, at work. No choice ofc.
That wasnt a surprise for them of course. They were alreadry chocked before.
The positiv part, in all of this, i gained confidence.
And i can see, who is an “ally”, at least not hostile, without being in my paranoia H24,
The biggest positiv part ? I want to try something new on my face, outfit, i just can without thinking anymore.
Yeah im superficial ah ah
